The best gift for any parents from their offspring is being taken care of in their golden age. Some parents are independent and don't like to rely on their kids which is alright as they may have saved up enough for their old age. But some may not be as lucky and need to depend on their children.As we are busy living the fast life, working hard to earn an income to support the family, sometimes it is inevitable that we are unable to take care of our aging parents. When we have school-going children of our own and can't even afford a maid, where do you turn to?
My grandfather used to live with us back when I was a little girl. When he fell sick, it became difficult for my mom to take care of him since she also had 5 daughters to take care of and my grandma as well. So, my dad sent him to a nursing home. I was too young to remember the details but I'm pretty sure my dad sent him with a heavy heart. Nobody likes to send their own parents away unless they don't have a choice. I didn't get to see my grandfather again since he passed away several months later:(
As for me, as much as I'd love to be with my kids until I'm old and grey but if they are unable to take care of me, they have my blessings to send me to a nursing home. It's time for the kids to live their life and what matters most is that I've brought them up and they're able to fend for themselves. I'd die a happy mom:)
Parents living with their children, especially married ones should not rule the house anymore. For example, when you've spent the whole day rearranging your home and your parents-in-law or parents decide to change it because they dislike it, it can be downright annoying. It will only cause friction and disrupts the harmony of the family.
I hope when I'm old and grey, I have a place to stay! Come to think of it I'm already old and grey ... sob, sob, sob ...
ReplyDeletethis is a very difficult decision for a lot of people, some aging parents will feel abandoned and alone if they ended up in the nursing home because they raised their kids properly and kids will have no time to take care of them issue will arise. There are some kids who dont want to send their aging parents to the nursing homes because they want to give back and be appreciative of everything that their parents have done for them, so i dont really know as far as which side is better or not
ReplyDeleteMD - Now, now... don't get all emotional. I'm sure you'll have a place to stay:) Those nursing homes are not all that bad you know...
ReplyDeleteHi Jazevox! Welcome to Mumblings, and thanks for your comments:)
ReplyDeleteThere's this Malay proverb that goes something like this: 'A mother could take care of her off-springs but the children are not able to take care of one mother!'